Saturday, July 19, 2008

Four Agreements

I've been busy in the basement, Hallelujah! Work is the best way to stop the chatter in my mind. Besides, I've 12 more days to weave at least six pieces, and hem, wash, press, dry, label and package, and each of these take 2 days minimum to weave. And I probably need to make 2 more warps to get the six I want. In fact, to get six good ones, I would like to weave at least around 10.

And Nancy spotted I needed Nancy time, so we had coffee and split a cinnamon bun yesterday. And I was telling her about the collaborative "Where to Next for Meg" search, and I must have said something which reminded her of the following list. I know she mentioned this some time ago, because I remember thinking at the time, not speaking against oneself and not filling the void with words excruciatingly difficult, and in some ways, quite the opposite of what my parents taught me about being polite and sociable and pleasant; I as a child understood this to mean, "entertain." Typical first born, I thought. And that's just 1). Anyway...

The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz

1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.


  1. Hey Meg, I've just realised that I'd lost your blog address while I was in NZ so glad I've found you again. Not sure if this is the same site I was reading before but it's the same you so that's the main thing. I like "The Four Agreements" - good advice I'll try to take. Thank you. XXOO

  2. Hi,Carol. I was reading an Aussie set of cards to trigger thoughts for journaling last night and of course my thoughts went to beautiful journals, and you. I hope all is well! (And yes, this is the right place.)


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